The need of intimacy is ageless and it’s certainly not only for the young. Sex can be a powerful emotional experience and is very beneficial for improving overall health at any age. It provides immense pleasure and can boosts married life with an overflowing stream of love. With passage of time, changes in our bodies may affect our sex lives and can results in less enjoyment during sex or difficulty in becoming sexually aroused.
Sometimes poor health or chronic health conditions may affect your sex life and sexual performance. But don’t give up. You and your partner can experiment with ways to adapt to your limitations. Stay positive and focus on ways of being intimate that work for you and your partner. Having intercourse even after 50’s can continue to be a rewarding part of your life. Here is the word of advice for increasing your sex drive as you age:
Communication is Vital
Communication helps to know the sexual desires of your partner which is very important to maintain healthy sex life. Elderly couples generally hesitate to have sexual conversation with partners. So take out some time to be sensual and sexual together. Don’t just focus on making physical relationship; instead share your thoughts about lovemaking. Openly sharing your needs, desires and concerns that can help you both enjoy sex and intimacy more.
Forget the Aging Process
For a number of reasons, many people worry about sex in their later years, and end up turning away from sexual encounters. Some older adults feel embarrassed, either by their aging bodies or by their “performance,” while others are affected by illness. But don’t turn a temporary situation into a permanent one. You can avoid this by being proactive and feeling young from inside. Older couples experience greater satisfaction with their sex life as they have fewer distractions, more time and privacy.
Plan a Holiday
Holidays are supposed to be fun and are best to escape from the routine and run of everyday’s monotonous life. It’s a great opportunity for couples to spend more time together, get closer and add some special memories to the casket of marital life. To spice up romance even in your senescence, visit hill station or a beach to refresh and recover from humdrum of life.
Encourage Safe Sex
Having unsafe sex is dangerous at any age. If you are in your 50s or more that doesn’t mean you are secure or your female partner can’t become Pregnant. First thing one needs to keep in mind that contraceptives such as condoms don’t only avoid unwanted pregnancy but also protect from sexually transmitted diseases. So dear elderly couples; always use protection during sex and stay tension free.
Modernize your Mentality
You perhaps belong to a generation in which sex was a taboo subject. But spouting openly about your needs and desires with your partner can make you both closer to each other and help you both enjoy sex and intimacy. A sterling sex life at any age involves a lot more than just sex. So take the pressure off by keeping aside your old ideas of what sex “should be” and focus on the importance of tenderness and contact.
Accept Natural Changes
As aging process continues, it’s normal for you and your partner to have different sexual abilities and needs. You need to find new ways to enjoy sexual contact. Both need to understand each other mentally, physically and emotionally and should not complain about certain natural changes occurred. Therefore, you may have intercourse less often than you used to, but the closeness and love you feel will remain.
Soup up the Definition of Sex
Sex is not about remaining quiet. It means much more than that. You need to express your emotions and have to be affectionate while making physical relationship. Kissing, hugging, expressing love through verbal communication during sex can enhance your lovemaking to the extreme.
Avoid Fear of ‘Performance’
Worrying about how you will perform, whether you are worthy of sexual attention from your partner, can result in impotence in men and lack of arousal in women. Stress, anxiety, and fear about performance may affect interest in sex. This can also lead to psychological changes that even interfere with your ability to connect emotionally with your partner. Therefore, it’s better to be relaxed to avoid such kind of fear.
Seek Sex Therapist
If you want to enjoy sexual life at later years of age but not finding yourself fit to do so, consult to a good sex therapist. A therapist will be able to help you and your partner with specific concerns.
Just try to indulge above tips if you wish to keep passion alive as you age. There is much you can do to continue an active and healthy sex life. Try to reduce the stress and keep a positive outlook on life.
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